MENTAL HEALTH

Shyness-causes &How to overcome

Shyness is a sense of awkwardness or apprehension that some people consistently feel when approaching or being approached by others. Shyness is a response to fear, and research suggests that although there is a neurobiology of shyness—the behavioral repertoire is orchestrated by a specific circuit of neurons in the brain—it is also strongly influenced by  parenting practices and life experiences.

What Causes Shyness?

Shyness emerges from a few key characteristics: self-consciousness, negative self-preoccupation, low Self-esteem and fear of judgment and rejection. Shy people often make unrealistic social comparisons, pitting themselves against the most vibrant or outgoing individuals. Believing that others are constantly evaluating them poorly, shy people abandon new social opportunities—which, in turn, prevents them from improving their social skills.

Are people born shy?

Shyness is characterized by excessive self-consciousness, negative self-evaluation, and negative self-preoccupation, features that involve a sense of self. Since a sense of self develops around 18 months old, one can argue that  people cannot be born shy.Around 20 percent of children are born with a highly reactive temperament, but that doesn’t guarantee that they will be shy or unable to change their behavior.

What causes shyness in children?

Shyness is driven by both biological and environmental forces. Babies are born with different temperaments, and those with an extremely sensitive temperament are more likely to go on to be shy.Yet supportive, sensitive parenting can buffer against developing shyness or social anxiety.

How to Overcome Shyness

Shy people can successfully address social challenges without altering their sense of identity.Researchers find that it’s often best for people to acknowledge their shyness and try to release themselves from feeling self-conscious.

A number of concrete strategies can boost social  confidence.Instead of avoiding social events, shy people can schedule them in advance and practice their social skills ahead of time. They can plan a few questions and talking points, and observe the discussion to get their bearings before contributing. They can also work to reframe their mindset, expecting a positive outcome rather than assuming a negative reaction is inevitable.

How to Overcome Shyness: Step-by-Step Instructions, Exercises, and Scenarios (Self Help)

How can I stop being so shy?

Preparing for a social situation can shift your focus from what can go wrong to  what can go right.Prepare questions for others and anecdotes you’d like to share. Reflect on what you might have in common. Being curious about others and softening your self-criticism can be helpful as well.

Can I outgrow shyness?

Shyness doesn’t disappear on its own. Shy people are most successful when they acknowledge and understand their shyness, and then act based on that self-awareness. They recognize that small talk may not come naturally, so they plan ahead, rehearse questions and anecdotes, and arrive early to feel comfortable in the new setting.

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