I often hear people say, “I want to be successful, but don’t know where to start” or “I’ve achieved success in my career, yet I’m not happy.” And then I ask, “What does career success mean to you?” And many have a hard time articulating what it really means to achieve career success in life.
It’s common that people lack clarity, focus, and direction, and when you layer on thoughts and actions that are misaligned with your values, this only adds to your misdirected quest to achieve career success.
A word of caution: It’s going to take some time for you to think about and work on your own path for career success. You need to set aside time and be intentional about the steps you take to achieve this. This guide can help you get started.
1. Define Career Success for Yourself
Pause. Give yourself time and space for self-reflection.
What does career success mean to you?
This is about defining your idea of success. This should not be based on what you think you “should” do, what others want you to do, or the norms you observe around you.
“A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms.” -Zen Shin
When you strip away all your external influences and manage your inner critic, what are you left with? You need to define the type of success that best suits your life situation.
There’s no fixed answer. Successful people are all different. Your answer will evolve and be impacted by life events. Here are a few career success examples:
- Work-life balance
- Opportunities for growth and advancement
- Feeling that contributions have an impact
Now, even as you reflect on the examples above, the descriptions are not specific enough. You’ve got to take it deeper:
- What do you mean by work-life balance?
- What do you consider to be opportunities for growth and advancement?
- How do you like to be recognized for your work? How do you know if your contributions have had an impact?
Let’s take a look at some potential responses to the questions above:
- I want more time with my family and less stress at work.
- I want increased responsibilities, to manage a team, a higher income, and the prestige of working at a certain level in the company.
- I’d like my immediate leader to send me a thank-you note or take me out for coffee to genuinely express her or his gratitude. I’ll know I’ve made an impact if I get feedback from my coworkers, leaders, and other stakeholders.
Further questions to reflect on to help narrow the focus for the above responses include:
- What are some opportunities that can help you get traction on getting more time with your family? And decrease your stress at work?
- What’s the most important thing for you in the next 12 months?
- What’s the significance of receiving others’ feedback?
Now, I’m only scratching the surface with these examples. It takes time to do the inner work and build a solid foundation.
Start this exercise by first asking what it means to achieve career success, and then ask yourself meaningful questions to help you dig deeper.
What types of themes emerge from your responses? What keywords or phrases keep coming up for you?
2. Know Your Values
Values are the principles and beliefs that guide your decisions, behaviors, and actions. When you’re not aligned with your values and act in a way that conflicts with your beliefs, it’ll feel like life is a struggle, and you may stop learning and growing.
There are simple value exercises that can help you quickly determine your core values. Find any list of values, and write down the top 5 that jump out at you as being personally important.
Once you have your top 5 values, keep them visible. Here are some ways to make them stick:
Always Putting Things off Until Tomorrow?
- Write them on cue cards or notes and post it in your office.
- Take a picture of your values and use it as a screensaver on your phone.
- Put the words on your fridge.
- Add the words on your vision board.
Where will your value words be placed in your physical environment so that you have a constant reminder of them?
3. Define Your Short-Term and Long-Term Goals
When writing your short-term and long-term life goals, use the SMART Framework: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-bound. Treat this as a brainstorming exercise that will point you in the direction of career success. Your potential and possibilities are limitless.
How you define short-term and long-term is entirely up to you. Short-term can be 30 days, 90 days, or even 6 months. Maybe long-term goals are 4 months, 1 year, or 10 years.
Here are a few self-reflection questions to help you write your goals:
- What would you want to do today if you had the power to make it the way you want?
- If no hurdles were in the way, what would you like to achieve?
- If you had the freedom to do whatever you want, what would it be?
- What type of impact do you want to have on people?
- Who are the people you most admire? What is it about them or what they have that you’d want for your life or career?
- What activities energize you? What’s one activity you love?
Get very clear and specific about your goals to achieve career success. Think about an archer. This person is laser focused on the target, the center of the bullseye. The target is your goal.
By focusing on one goal at a time and having that goal visible, you can behave and act in ways that will help you solve problems and move you closer to your career goals.
4. Determine Your Top Talents
What did you love doing as a kid? What made these moments fun? What did you have a knack for? What did you most cherish about these times? What are the common themes?
What work feels effortless? What work do you do that doesn’t seem like work? Think about work you can lose track of time doing.
What are your desires? Try it out. Experiment. Take action and start. How can you incorporate more of this type of work into your daily life?
Why Do So Many People Fail to Reach Their Goals?
Succeeding in your career requires identifying your talents, especially the talents you want to use on a daily basis to do work that feels meaning. Start paying attention to what you do best.
5. Identify “Feeling” Words You Want to Experience
Do you have tendencies to use your head or heart to make decisions?
I have a very strong tendency to make rational, practical, and fact-based decisions using my head. It’s very rare for me to make decisions using my emotions. I was forced to learn how to make more intuitive decisions by listening to my gut when I was struggling with pivotal life decisions. This was very unfamiliar to me; however, it expanded my self-awareness.
Review any list of feeling words. Use the same technique you use for the values exercise to narrow down how you want to feel when it comes to career success.
Keep these words visible, too!
Review your responses. What do you observe? What insights do you gain from these responses and those in the above steps?
6. Be Willing to Sit With Discomfort
In order to achieve career success, you’ll need to make career decisions aligned with your values, goals, talents, and feelings. This is not for the faint-hearted. It takes real work, courage, and willingness to cut out the noise around you. You’ll need to sit with discomfort for a bit until you build up your muscle to hit the targets you want.
Surround yourself with a supportive network to help you through these times.
“These pains you feel are messengers. Listen to them.” -Rumi
7. Cultivate Positive Emotions
While many assume career success leads to happiness, the alternative may actually be more accurate. One study found that “evidence continues to persuasively suggest that happiness is correlated with and often precedes career success and that experimentally enhancing positive emotions leads to improved outcomes in the workplace”.
What does this mean for your career?
Instead of seeking happiness purely from whether or not you achieve career success, find other ways to cultivate positive emotions in your life, as this will ultimately aid you in finding that success. Engage in your favorite hobby, try meditation, or spend time with good friends and family.
Do what makes you feel good, and you’ll find career success comes more easily.
The Bottom Line
For many who have gone through a career change or been impacted by life events, these steps may seem very basic. However, it’s sometimes the basics that we forget to do. The simple things and moments can edge us closer to our larger vision for ourselves.
Staying present and appreciating what you have today can sometimes help you achieve your long-term goals.
Remember to take time for yourself. Hit pause, notice, observe, and reflect to achieve career success by getting deliberate and intentional.
“When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you.” -Lolly Daskal
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