Are you someone who likes to grow? Do you constantly seek to improve yourself and become better?
If you do, then we have something in common.
I’m very passionate about personal growth. It was just 4 years ago when I discovered my passion for growing and helping others grow. At that time, I was 22 and in my final year of university. As I thought about the meaning of life, I realized there was nothing more meaningful than to pursue a life of development and betterment. It is through improving ourselves that we get the most out of life.
After a year and a half of actively pursuing growth and helping others to grow through my personal development blog, I realize there is never an end to the journey of self improvement.
The more I grow, the more I realize there is so much out there I don’t know, so much that I have to learn.
For sure, there is always something about ourselves we can improve on. The human potential is limitless, so it’s impossible to reach a point of no growth.
Whenever we think we are good, we can be even better.
As a passionate advocate of growth, I’m continuously looking for ways to self-improve. I’ve compiled 42 of my best tips which might be helpful in your personal growth journey. Some of them are simple steps which you can engage in immediately. Some are bigger steps which takes conscious effort to act on. Here they are:
1. Read a book every day.
Books are concentrated sources of wisdom. The more books you read, the more wisdom you expose yourself to.
What are some books you can start reading to enrich yourself? Some books I’ve read and found useful are Think and Grow Rich, Who Moved My Cheese, 7 Habits, The Science of Getting Rich and Living the 80/20 Way.
When you’re reading a book every day, you will feed your brain with more and more knowledge.
2. Learn a new language.
As a Singaporean Chinese, my main languages are English, Mandarin and Hokkien (a Chinese dialect). Out of interest, I took up language courses in the past few years such as Japanese and Bahasa Indonesian.
I realized learning a language is a whole new skill altogether and the process of acquainting with a new language and culture is a totally a mind-opening experience.
3. Pick up a new hobby.
Beyond just your usual favorite hobbies, is there something new you can pick up? Any new sport you can learn?
Examples are fencing, golf, rock climbing, football, canoeing, or ice skating.
Learning something new requires you to stretch yourself in different aspects, whether physically, mentally or emotionally.
4. Take up a new course.
Is there any new course you can join? Courses are a great way to gain new knowledge and skills.
It doesn’t have to be a long-term course – seminars or workshops serve their purpose too.
I’ve been to a few workshops and they have helped me gain new insights which I had not considered before.
5. Create an inspirational room.
Your environment sets the mood and tone for you. If you are living in an inspirational environment, you are going to be inspired every day.
In the past, I didn’t like my room at all because I thought it was messy and dull. A few years ago, I decided this was the end of it – I started on a “Mega Room Revamp” project and overhauled my room.
The end result? A room I totally relish being in and inspires me to be at my peak every day.
6. Overcome your fears.
All of us have fears. Fear of uncertainty, fear of public speaking, fear of risk… All our fears keep us in the same position and prevent us from growing.
Recognize that your fears reflect areas where you can grow. I always think of fears as the compass for growth.
If I have a fear about something, it represents something I’ve yet to address, and addressing it helps me to grow.
7. Level up your skills.
If you have played video games before, especially RPGs, you’ll know the concept of leveling up – gaining experience so you can be better and stronger.
As a blogger, I’m constantly leveling up my writing skills. As a speaker, I’m constantly leveling up my public engagement abilities. What skills can you level up?
8. Wake up early.
Waking up early (say, 5-6am) has been acknowledged by many (Anthony Robbins, Robin Sharma, among other self-help gurus) to improve your productivity and your quality of life.
I feel it’s because when you wake up early, your mindset is already set to continue the momentum and proactively live out the day.
9. Have a weekly exercise routine.
A better you starts with being in better physical shape. I personally make it a point to jog at least 3 times a week, at least 30 minutes each time.
10. Start your life handbook.
A life handbook is an idea I started 3 years ago.
Basically, it’s a book which contains the essentials on how you can live your life to the fullest, such as your purpose, your values and goals. Sort of like your manual for your life.
I started my life handbook since 2007 and it’s been a crucial enabler in my progress.
11. Write a letter to your future self.
What do you see yourself as 5 years from now? Will you be the same? Different? What kind of person will you be?
Write a letter to your future self – 1 year from now will be a good start – and seal it.
Make a date in your calendar to open it 1 year from now. Then start working to become the person you want to open that letter.
12. Get out of your comfort zone.
Real growth comes with hard work and sweat. Being too comfortable doesn’t help us grow, it makes us stagnate.
What is your comfort zone? Do you stay in most of the time? Do you keep to your own space when out with other people?
Shake your routine up. Do something different.
By exposing yourself to a new context, you’re literally growing as you learn to act in new circumstances.
13. Put someone up to a challenge.
Competition is one of the best ways to grow. Set a challenge (weight loss, exercise, financial challenge, etc) and compete with an interested friend to see who achieves the target first.
Through the process, both of you will gain more than if you were to set off on the target alone.
14. Identify your blind spots.
Scientifically, blind spots refer to areas our eyes are not capable of seeing. In personal development terms, blind spots are things about ourselves we are unaware of. Discovering our blind spots help us discover our areas of improvement.
One exercise I use to discover my blind spots is to identify all the things/events/people that trigger me in a day — trigger meaning making me feel annoyed/weird/affected. These represent my blind spots.
It’s always fun to do the exercise because I discover new things about myself, even if I may already think I know my own blind spots (but then they wouldn’t be blind spots would they?).
After that, I work on steps to address them.
15. Ask for feedback.
As much as we try to improve, we will always have blind spots. Asking for feedback gives us an additional perspective.
Some people to approach will be friends, family, colleagues, boss, or even acquaintances, since they will have no preset bias and can give their feedback objectively.
16. Stay focused with to-do lists.
I start my day with a list of tasks I want to complete and this helps make me stay focused. In comparison, the days when I don’t do this end up being extremely unproductive.
For example, part of my to-do list for today is to write a guest post at LifeHack.Org, and this is why I’m writing this now!
Since my work requires me to use my computer all the time, I use Free Sticky Notes to manage my to-do lists. It’s really simple to use and it’s a freeware, so I recommend you check it out.
17. Set Big Hairy Audacious Goals (BHAGs).
I’m a big fan of setting BHAGs. BHAGs stretch you beyond your normal capacity since they are big and audacious – you wouldn’t think of attempting them normally.
What are BHAGs you can embark on, which you’ll feel absolutely on top of the world once you complete them? Set them and start working on them.
18. Acknowledge your flaws.
Everyone has flaws. What’s most important is to understand them, acknowledge them, and address them.
What do you think are your flaws? What are the flaws you can work on now? How do you want to address them?
19. Get into action.
The best way to learn and improve is to take action.
What is something you have been meaning to do? How can you take action on it immediately?
Waiting doesn’t get anything done. Taking action gives you immediate results to learn from.
20. Learn from people who inspire you.
Think about people you admire. People who inspire you. These people reflect certain qualities you want to have for yourself too.
What are the qualities in them you want to have for yourself? How can you acquire these qualities?
21. Quit a bad habit.
Are there any bad habits you can lose? Oversleeping? Not exercising? Being late? Slouching? Nail biting? Smoking?
22. Cultivate a new habit.
Some good new habits to cultivate include reading books (#1), waking up early (#8), exercising (#9), reading a new personal development article a day (#40) and meditating.
Is there any other new habit you can cultivate to improve yourself?
23. Avoid negative people.
As Jim Rohn says,
“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”.
Wherever we go, there are bound to be negative people. Don’t spend too much of your time around them if you feel they drag you down.
24. Learn to deal with difficult people.
There are times when there are difficult people you can’t avoid, such as at your workplace, or when the person is part of your inner circle of contacts.
25. Learn from your friends.
Everyone has amazing qualities in them. It’s up to how we want to tap into them.
With all the friends who surround you, they are going to have things you can learn from.
Try thinking of a good friend right now. Think about just one quality they have which you want to adopt. How can you learn from them and adopt this skill for yourself?
Speak to them if you need to. For sure, they will be more than happy to help!
26. Start a journal.
As you write, clarify your thought process and read what you wrote from a third person’s perspective, you gain more insights about yourself.
Your journal can be private or an online blog. I use my personal development blog as a personal journal too and I’ve learned a lot about myself through the past year of blogging.
27. Start a blog about personal development.
To help others grow, you need to first be walking the talk. There are expectations of you, both from yourself and from others, which you have to uphold.
I run The Personal Excellence Blog, where I share my personal journey and insights on how to live a better life. Readers look toward my articles to improve themselves, which enforces to me that I need to keep improving, for myself and for the people I’m reaching out to.
28. Get a mentor or coach.
There’s no faster way to improve than to have someone work with you on your goals.
Many of my clients approach me to coach them in their goals and they achieve significantly more results than if they had worked alone.
29. Reduce the time you spend on chat programs.
I realized having chat programs open at default result in a lot of wasted time. This time can be much better spent on other activities.
The days when I don’t get on chat, I get a lot more done. I usually disable the auto start-up option in the chat programs and launch them when I do want to chat and really have the time for it.
30. Learn chess (or any strategy game).
I found chess is a terrific game to learn strategy and hone your brainpower. Not only do you have fun, you also get to exercise your analytical skills.
You can also learn strategy from other board games or computer games, such as Othello, Chinese Chess, WarCraft, and so on.
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