How to Set Realistic Goals


My body feels tight, and my muscles ache from constantly staring at my computer as I type.

“I really need more exercise,” I thought as I felt the tension on my shoulders. “I need to get into a better position.”

We all have those things that are not in line with the way we think our lives should be.


While our feeling may be to put something on our to-do list and strengthen our approach by making changes (we often blame ourselves when we fail), this rarely works.

“Until you make it conscious, it will control your life and you will call it destiny.” –-Carl G. Jung

Making a change requires self-awareness and knowing how to set goals that cover our success.

How Objectives Work
Imagine that you have a problem in some area of ​​your life where you would like to do something different.


While it may seem like a contradiction, when setting goals for success, it is important to look at why things are the way they are now.

If you think your unconscious mind is always working for you, what benefits can you get from not getting what you think you want?

Although it may not always seem that way, we always have a good reason for doing what we do, even if it is not.

Ask yourself, “What good reason could my unconscious mind want me to continue with this unwanted behavior?”

The answers are always ours and different for each of us.


In the case of my exercise problem (or lack of exercise), when I asked this question, I realized that my unconscious mind might see exercise as a direct opposition to my writing.

I had just released a lot of writing space and I was looking forward to it. From an external point of view, it would seem obvious that there is plenty of time for writing and exercise.

However, I felt that my mind was unconscious and saw the time spent using it as a threat to this other practice that was working for my well-being.


Writing was good for my soul, and finding time to do it often was something I had just worked on in my life.

The answer?

I needed to come up with a new goal that included both my needs.

How to Create a New Goal of Success
I like to think of the goals we carefully choose in our lives as a great safety net, a foundation that is beneath us, holding our power, making sure we don’t go too far from where we want our lives to go.

When we deliberately aim our goals, we are more effective in achieving the desired results.

Combining the combined power of our unconscious and alert minds ensures that we use all our resources – ourselves – when it comes to showing change.

Here are 10 steps you can take to begin the process of preparation for mediation.

10 steps to building a successful goal
The next ten-step process is something I call Activation Meditation (TM), which I have developed and used in workshops and private sessions with my clients for a few decades.

Trying to Reflect (TM) is designed to help you reach your right mindset and guide your transformation.


Activation Meditations (TM) incorporates the latest in neuroscience research, NeuroLinguistic Programming (NLP), Ericksonian hypnotherapy, energy medicine, visualization, and meditation techniques to help people use their inner strength to create profound and lasting change.

Step 1. Ask Yourself: What Does Not Work?
(Personally, sitting for hours on my computer without taking a break or moving my body over and over again would not work.)
Step 2. Consider: How Do You Want to Feel Instead?
(I wanted to feel more relaxed, strong, and fit.)
Once you’ve found your new goal, make a commitment.

Confirmation is written in the first person and in the present. It usually begins with “I AM” (for example, “I am strong and free”).


Step 3. Log In With Your Intuition
What is your knowledge of the stomach for the purpose you have chosen?

Our intuition is to communicate with us at all times through our bodies.

Is your new goal really what you want? How do you know? How does this new goal make you feel?

It is important to listen to our emotions because our goals are personal.

When I wondered what could be the best intention, the word “open” came to my mind.
That felt so much better.
Previously, I had always believed that there was not enough free time in my workout routine. My muscles were tight, which meant that there was not enough space in my body.
Although it may not seem to be related to my desire to exercise at first glance, to me the phrase “open” was a good decision for my new purpose.
Step 4. Think of a symbol that represents how you want to feel
This is a step most people take and probably the most powerful.


Like psychologists Carl Jung and Freud both discuss their work , the unconscious mind communicates with us through symptoms.
Using symbols can help speed up our transformation and make them more resilient. When looking for a brand that stands for your purpose, trust whatever you come up with. There are no “right” or “wrong” answers.

Research shows that visual acuity is most effective when it reaches all our senses.
If your mark had a sound, smell, taste, or feeling associated with it, what would that be? Dark or light? Is it big or small? (There are no right answers, hope whatever comes first in your head.)


People see all kinds of signs when they do this work. Your mark could be an object, an image, a color, a symbol, something you have seen before, or something new that you have created in your mind. Some people do not visualize it easily and instead may simply feel it or associate their purpose with the sound or smell.

(The sign I saw was a bright white spot with a few dots.
Step 5. Imagine Your Mark in Your Heart
Consider bringing a sign that represents your new purpose to the top of your head. After that, consider bringing down by using the crown of your head on your body into your heart.

You can do this very quickly by simply closing your eyes or in the form of long meditation, as I give you in the “free stuff” section of my website.


Step 6. Select the corresponding action
While you are at ease, ask yourself:

“What is the action to take – another straightforward, simple change, which I can do to show my purpose?”

(For me, the step I was thinking of was going to stretch a lot. More than anything, I realized that my body needed to stretch more throughout the day, especially after a long period of writing. .)
Step 7. Connect your action with the existing practice
What habit do you already have that makes you feel the same way?

The idea is to start small and build on areas where you already have success. Instead of finding a new window in your calendar to add a new custom to it, add to something you already do.


(For example, every time I decided to sit down or get up from my computer or notebook, I would take a few minutes to stretch.)
Step 8. Think about some ideas
Think of new ways to incorporate your new purpose into your life. As you do, think about your brand. This will help to surpass any internal resistance you may have in the new behavior.

(Thinking about the things that helped me helped me find many other ways to create fitness classes for my day. I realized that walking can be a great time to come up with new ideas that I write about.

By continuing to build on the success I already had in my writing, I allowed my two best practices to support each other, rather than contradict my unconscious mind. As a result, I regained my composure so that I could see exercise as a way to improve my writing style, instead of being a different part of my life.)

Step 9. Communicate With Your Symbol and Purpose More

Think about your sign and repeat your confession / intention to you when you get up first and right before you go to bed. Studies show that focusing on our goals before bed can increase our ability to achieve our desired results.
Think about your brand again as you do the actions of your day. This increases the likelihood that your goal will increase and have a positive impact on other aspects of your life.


Step 10. Log in and Celebrate Success
Examine yourself at the end of the day to see how well you are doing.

Celebrate your success and use the entry periodically. Consider doing a ritual where you check yourself in the morning and before bedtime, at the same time thinking of your mark and repeating your confession (# 9).

This can help you to stay focused and to find new ways to better plan your goals in life.

Final Thoughts
In review, there are two ways to set goals.

The first is to choose goals based on our rational mind – what we think we should “do” with our lives, based on the recommendations of others or what we think our lives should be like.


Second is tapping all our features, our unconscious mind, imagination, intuition, and art.

The goals set out in this holistic approach are effective because they connect us to our self-esteem and provide us with a catch-up as we strive to create a life that respects all who we are.

See the list above from 1 to 10. What action do you think you can take to jump or speed up when you set yourself up for success?

For me, it’s number 3. Sometimes I want to speed up with an exercise like this, and then forget about getting into the wisdom of my mind.

Our intuition, however, is key to setting goals and making them achieve.

As you read all these steps, try and find the ideas that work for you. Remember, you have the wisdom and the strength to keep on trying to create anything that will benefit you.




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