13 Keys to Living a Better Life


Twenty years ago, my husband and I had a unique experience that I will never forget. While en route to Nairobi, Kenya, a mentally ill passenger broke into a minibus and tried to crash the plane.

Five stressful minutes, the plane performs acrobatics in the air.

In those moments of life hanging on the phone, what living a better life means to me suddenly became as clear as crystal.

But I’ll get to that in a minute. Because this text is not about me. It’s about you and your life.

Do you have a strong sense of what you want in life, but find it difficult to achieve that when dealing with your daily activities and stress?


If so, you are not alone.

Recent research has revealed 13 keys that can help us balance this balance between the big picture of what we want in life and the daily flow of distractions.

But first, it is important to find out what it means to live a better life for you.

What Makes You Meaningful?
When you think of living a better life, what do you think of yourself?

Maybe finding happiness, reaching your potential, or making the world a better place?

What are the internal levels by which you judge your health?


The following three questions may help.

3 questions you can ask about living the best life possible
For me, at times when we were facing death during that horrible flight experience, I became deeply aware of the three questions with which I was judging how my life had reached that point.

How Do I Find Love?
The love I felt at that moment for my husband, our loved ones who were on earth, and all the other people in the world was very deep. I realized that love – both my ability to accept and share it — was more important than anything else.


How Real Is My Share in Giving?
We all have a different gift – a different power and context of who we really are. Each person has a different gift of giving that no one else can repeat.

Living our healthy life means finding our best creative ways, be it at work, in our hobbies, or how we live.

What Do I Thank For?
It is easy to focus on our problems and problems or on the distractions of daily life. However, when we remember our own death, we realize that each moment is a gift.

Central to the larger picture of our lives is the individual. However, finding out how we get our formula to live our best life.


What hinders you from living a good life?
Forward 20 years later.

Today, my morning begins just before sunrise. Emails, texts, and appointments require my attention, including requests from my family, friends, colleagues, and news alerts about the latest global crisis. Not to mention our puppy, who asked to be released so he could leave in the morning.

The problem most of us struggle with is time. How do we use our time to make our lives more meaningful?

These 13 buttons can help us focus, live more purposefully, increase our happiness and well-being, and truly connect with the unique gift we all have to share, even in the face of daily distractions.


Ways to Live a Better Life

  1. Find The Most Important Thing For You
    It does not take the experience of approaching death to reconnect with the most important. Sometimes, just a few minutes of asking difficult questions can help us to do the same.

What is most important to you? What is most important to you – in fact? If you have learned that you have limited time left, what would you like to do with your time?

Have you ever had a difficult experience helping you to determine what is really important? What did you learn What are your answers to the three questions above?


What is most important to you?

  1. Make it a practice to attend
    Studies have shown that the simplest way to enjoy life is to develop the ability to hear fully each minute. Consideration is the ability to keep the present moment without judgment.

Contemplation has many benefits. Diabetic patients who were trained in cognitive abilities experienced lower blood sugar and increased happiness.

Contemplation in the workplace has been proven to reduce fatigue and increase job satisfaction.

Thinking is not hard to learn and it is something we can do in a moment.


In the meantime, take a deep breath. Pay attention to how the air feels as it enters your lungs.

How does your body feel? Are your muscles strong or relaxed? Do you feel warm or cold? What do you see? What do you smell? What do you hear?

Focus on the sounds that are closest to you, and then move on. Now try to hear beyond that. This is the only requirement for full attendance.

  1. Save Time
    The most powerful process I have been teaching my clients to do and that I have been doing in my life for decades is what I call Creating a Miracle Time. This is very effective in relation to living our best life.

Here’s how to create a Miraculous Moment, right now.


First, be present by looking around and noticing what is happening (ask yourself the questions above in Key # 2).

Then you find something very specific to be thankful for – maybe how the sun feels on your face, feeling safe, hearing beautiful music playing in the background, etc.

Combining thinking and keeping the minute is powerful, and the benefits are supported by research. Doing these things together can improve your mental health and your health.

  1. Listen Compassionately
    Living the best life ever has to do with the level of trust, empathy, and intimacy we have in our relationships with our loved ones.

Being a good listener helps people feel that we really care. It also helps us to understand what they need and want, so that we can work for people and find better solutions. His methods are based on the notion that “observation without analysis is the highest form of human intelligence.”

  1. Learn Flow
    One of the most powerful ways to communicate with our true personality and to feel good about ourselves is to flow.

Flow is a work-like thinking. Flow is when we get so absorbed in what we are doing that we get into space and stop thinking about anything else. We can find this when we play a musical instrument, play a game, do art work, write an essay, read a book, etc.

  1. Hit the Reset Button (Frequency)
    Sometimes life sends us the wrong curveballs. It’s important to know how to get back to the center — who we are and to reconnect with our goals and priorities. If you ever find yourself feeling out of place or uncomfortable, consider hitting the break button.

It only takes a minute to refocus. Some good reset tips include stretching, taking a deep breath, writing down a few goals or objectives, and then starting over.

Knowing how to reset our energy is important when it comes to moving with minor setbacks and major changes in life.

  1. Zazi
    There is a saying that awareness is the first step to recovery. Sometimes we are so busy in life that we do not take the time to hear our inner voice, which can have serious consequences.

And we can be blind to destructive habits that we want to pretend are not happening but can have long-term negative effects on our well-being.

When we prioritize getting to know ourselves, we get information that can go a long way in changing our lives for the better. If self-esteem is something you want to improve, consider working with a doctor, trainer, journalist, meditator, or regular share from a deep source of trust with a friend who wants the best for you.

  1. Comfort yourself
    Self-awareness is one thing. What we do knowingly, however, is very important.

Many of us have learned to work harder and harder on ourselves when we are faced with challenges or personalities that we would like to change. However, research shows that self-criticism can have a detrimental effect on our health, well-being, and quality of life.
The good news is that self-awareness and self-confidence can be learned and can reduce our risk of depression, anxiety, embarrassment and stress. The next time you find yourself in a critical situation, try to strengthen yourself, look at comforting and reassuring pictures, or think of comfort in a deeper understanding, acceptance and empathy for a friend.

  1. Do What You Love
    The benefits of recreation and entertainment are widely accepted, including improving our well-being and reducing stress. When we enjoy something, we are ready to do it more often.

When we become accustomed to doing something, we improve, and that can also increase our sense of well-being, confidence, and success.


The activities we love and are the ones that can help us feel the flow (Key # 5), which enhances our happiness and can provide direct knowledge of who we really are, our unique gift, and our true personality.

Shortly after our tragic experience on the plane to Africa, my husband and I took a three-month sabbatical around the United States, discussing with over a hundred people their hopes and dreams, including what they had always dreamed of doing. The excitement in the faces of the people as they shared their responses has shown us that even the act of thinking about what we like to do can be a game changer.

Take a moment now to ask yourself:

What are your desires? What are your hobbies?

Your answers are the key to living a better life.

  1. Develop Good Manners and Practices
    One of the reasons why small things get in the way of our big goals and objectives is that we have not yet established good habits and practices.

The methods we can use to help us break down clutter, reduce distractions, and easily accomplish all the simple things we all need to do to survive, such as paying our bills, making our food, washing and storing our clothes and dishes and, of course, emptying our mailboxes.

Research shows that the more we improve our health and well-being, the better our health and well-being are.

  1. Dedicate Yourself to Your Communication
    The COVID-19 epidemic has shown us personally how important our communication with the community is. Society is an important factor in how happy we are with our lives, and our long-term well-being and health.

If you feel disconnected or want to reinforce your sense of membership, consider calling a different friend each day, joining a church, synagogue or spiritual group, an online or personal support group, a book club, or exploring cultural or community events can be attended by other people with shared interests.

To reconnect with your favorite friends, try scheduling a weekly walk, coffee hour, phone call, happy hour, or email / text entry.


We get what we put there. Identify when your loved ones ask for help or want to communicate. Let go and create healthy boundaries with people who take your energy out.

  1. Move Your Body
    Exercise is an important way to stay healthy and happy. Studies show that exercise can prevent depression, chronic illness, improve our mood, and extend our longevity.

We now know that it is not only important exercise, but also how we hold and move our bodies as we make the movements of our lives, including working at our desks. Recent research suggests that simply staying focused can help us think positive thoughts about ourselves and what might happen in our lives.

  1. Spend Time in Nature
    One of the best ways to improve our health is to spend time in nature. From the benefits of vitamin D from sunlight, to simply going out of our world and interacting with something great, the benefits of nature are well established.

The more we learn, the more we realize how important it is to protect our natural habitats, parks, and trees, not only for our enjoyment, but also for our physical and mental well-being.

Final Thoughts
Living a better life requires knowing more about ourselves and reflecting on this in our daily priorities. The good news is that, with purpose and focus, small changes can make a big difference.

See the list of 13 keys above at a time. What are the 13 keys to living your life better for you? What do you think has the greatest potential for changing your life for the better?


Recently, I found the # 6: Hit The Reset Button to be particularly helpful.

When we feel frustrated or absent, all we have to do is remember that every moment is a gift.

No matter how far the anxieties or distractions of our life have pushed us away from where we want to be, it only takes a moment to reset, move from the distractions to the gratitude, remember the most important things and start all over again.



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