Fear is an important factor. It keeps people safe and encourages vigilance when caution is in order. But fear can also be a powerful force for good, since not everything you fear is something to be feared.
Have you ever been in a situation in which you felt afraid to make a decision, make a change, or take risks?
Did you end up taking that risk or did you make that decision? Or do you just leave things as they are? If you did, were you happy with the way things went?
It is only natural to want to feel safe – to be comfortable and to stay away from danger. This has been the case since the beginning of time, when the first humans knew only how to put survival first. Even today, many still choose to play it safe and avoid putting themselves in harm’s way or to commit serious acts of faith when it comes to making decisions in life.
Realist and dreamer
To put it simply, there are two types of people: real and dreamers. Facts are an understandable and prudent type of people who constantly think and weigh right and wrong before making any decisions – especially big, life-changing. Whether deciding what should be the most important thing at the University, what course of action to take, or not to buy that house or car, to go on vacation, or to blow up that new watch, a real person thinks long and hard before making a decision, if they decide. Realists adhere to the “next?” planning for the future and you may not think differently about the various opportunities that life can lead to. This often happens because of the confidence they have already committed to the accepted program.
Realists also have dreams, but these are very much focused on ambition, drive and determination. These are the goals listed for a period of time. Realists understand that progress requires more than just desire and drive, but also, communication. They feel that life is less stressful because of survival, responsibility and… paying rent or mortgage. As a result, they tend to make safer decisions and cling to their comfort of knowing what is best for themselves.
Now let’s look at dreamers. The dreamers are well. They have high ambitions, they can put them at risk, sometimes more than in a hurry, but they always challenge social norms and try to think outside the box. This does not mean that they do not have the plans or the means to do so. But it is possible for them to change the course of their travels in time, knowledge and following their hearts.
Dreamers find their inspiration inside. No one else’s ideas are heavy enough to change a dream driver. Dreamers do not let their fears overwhelm them. They may fail from time to time, but they do not give up life or love.
Accept the Fear
Now who do you think you are? And is one better than the other? In life, balance is always the key. I am sure you have heard the saying: “all in moderation”. Similarly, being realistic is no better than dreaming. They both came up with their own challenges. But what I do know is that no matter where you are in life, fear should always be seen as a means to an end.
Getting out of your comfort zone is the kind of fear that should be embraced. If you think you are a dreamer, then good! Getting out of your comfort zone may not be new to you. Whether you decide to leave the University to start your own business, move to a new country on your own, take that step to ask someone for a date even though you think they are out of your league, or decide to leave your senior position and pay 10 years to become a DJ. You have chosen to do so because you know that you may be more likely to regret the ‘what’ to ‘than the mistakes (if any) of those decisions.
But if you’ve been a very cautious person (and you’re about to become a reality), I hope you’ll think more about accepting the act of stepping out! Of course, that does not mean that you should start making hasty or bold decisions. It just means opening your mind to the acceptance that getting out of your comfort zone is not a bad thing, it is not something you can doubt or fear.
In times of distress or anxiety, remember that some of the best things can happen to you when you are afraid or in a state of shock. These experiences can challenge you and help you to grow. Commit to trying this situation with your best efforts, and keep your expectations low to minimize additional stress. Living outside of your comfort zone by definition is not fun. Therefore, the best habit you can cultivate within you is the habit of becoming accustomed to discomfort.
You may be at a crossroads in life and feel insecure, or you may not feel happy where you are right now. It could be an unhappy job, an unhappy relationship, or even just knowing that you are so comfortable where you are that you feel challenged. All of this uncertainty can be traced back to your goals. What do you want? What do you want?
So, what do you want?
We have different goals, dreams, and aspirations, but all lead to the same outcome – better than we ever were before. Whether it is about happiness, wealth, love etc.
So why do some of us have a hard time moving forward?
To break free from our limitations, we must take a step back and find a new perspective on what constraints really are. At the top, limitations are the things that keep you from doing something, but if you dig deeper, you will find that limitations are the things that keep you locked inside the loop.
They keep you sticking to the same problems, having the same options, and doing the same actions over and over, over and over again. Limitations describe your current circumstances, which also means they describe your quality of life.
If you want to improve the quality of your life, then you will be able to break free from the limits that keep you living the same way every day, month and year.
Your truth is based on your perception.
It is not an important fact, but rather, how you see it. Being able to control your emotions is a key to breaking the cycle of success and failure. Building your understanding is so powerful that a small change in perspective can completely change everything — including your motivation, your vision, and your self-confidence!
So all the limitations start in your mind.
This is good news because it means you can learn to control your boundaries, and get out of your current situation to get back on track with self-improvement.
At Lifehack, we are committed to helping you find the best solutions to your problems, and as we have more than 15 years of experience in training, we have retained our knowledge and practices as the most effective transformation model you can use to not only help you exceed your limitations, but also help you .
Getting out of your comfort zone is not always easy, but we are here to make it easier for you to see your true potential. That is why I want to introduce the Fracture Framework.
A 4-step journey that offers a general paradigm change to change any limitations you may have, into an accessible opportunity.
By going through each of these 4 steps, you will be able to change your mind and actions for the necessary changes to achieve your ultimate goals, and truly break your boundaries.