How to Manage Emotional Blackmail in a Relationship


Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner made you feel crazy? Or when they wanted to control everything you do? Or maybe you have felt that you have been abused emotionally?

If you feel that way, you are not alone. Many people find themselves the victim of an emotionally charged attack.

But what exactly is emotional abuse? Let’s take a look.

What Is Emotional Cheating?
Emotional deception is a very serious condition that occurs in other relationships. It is a form of fraud that is used to make demands and to threaten the victims to get what they want.

Like “normal” blackmail, an emotional blackmail message is: “If you don’t do what I want and when I want you, you will regret it. I will make you suffer. ”


An example of a “normal blackmail” might look like this. Maybe you got into a fraudulent marriage with one of your coworkers (not his wife). Since he does not want his wife to find out, he may do whatever it takes to keep her secret. Therefore, it would be a serious offense for you to say, “I will not tell your wife if you double my salary.”

Emotional abuse is no different. It just happens in close and intimate relationships.

A person trying to cheat emotionally will create feelings of fear, guilt, and anger so that you can comply with their wishes. While doing this, they try to blame you (the victim) for their misbehavior.

Examples of Emotional Destruction
An emotionally abusive person often does not develop emotionally. They have no other means of communicating with anyone, and they don’t know how to be in a healthy relationship. Instead, they rely on their own improper behavior to harass their partners in obedience.


Emotional abuse occurs in many romantic relationships. In fact, this is probably the most common type of relationship in which you will find this happening.

Let’s take the example of cheating. If a woman is caught cheating on her husband (and he is an emotionally abusive person), then instead of expressing regret and apologizing for her actions, she will pass the blame on to her husband.

In other words, he could say things like, “If you loved me and cared so much for me, I wouldn’t be fooled!” By saying this, she forgives her behavior and confuses her husband so much that she can begin to believe it was her fault that she cheated on him.

He may even start to take this step and wonder if he is a bad person or if he is somehow a bad man.

Here are some ways in which one can be emotionally involved:


If you break up with me, I’ll kill myself.
He says he loves me, but you can’t stop talking to your friend because I want you.
If I catch you looking at another woman, I’ll kill her!
I’ve talked to my friends and family, and they all agree that you’re crazy!
You ruined my life, now you’re trying to tell me to stop drinking?
You see, the emotional blackmailer will always try to make the victim feel like they should be blamed for everything. Here are a few examples:

It is your fault that I did not get that promotion.
If you could just buy healthy food, then I wouldn’t be overweight.
They also use confusing techniques to target their victims. The ways in which they do this make their demands seem reasonable, make their victim appear selfish or insane, or collaborate with someone to intimidate them.

How Do You Know If You Are Emotional Abuse?
Believe it or not, you may not know if you are being mistreated. It may seem like you should know, but sometimes people are very close to this situation and as a result, they do not see the warning signs.


Let’s look at some of the things to look for:

Are you too sorry? In other words, do you feel like your partner thinks everything you are doing is wrong so you should always ask for forgiveness?
Are you taking responsibility for your partner’s actions? In other words, if they are angry, do you think it is because you did something wrong?
Does it seem like you are the only one who is willing or self-sacrificing in a relationship?

Do you often feel afraid of your partner? Do you feel threatened by obedience to what they say or by compulsion?
Are you making changes in your life just to make your partner happy?
Do you find it hard to stand up for yourself? Or does he just not pay attention when you tell him something to do?

Do you find it difficult to set boundaries in your relationship or not with your partner?
Do you find it very difficult to communicate with your partner? And if you do, you won’t hear what you’re really saying?
If you said “yes” to any of these questions, you may be suffering emotionally. And you need to do something about it.

Tips for Managing Emotional Deception
If you are a victim of emotional trauma, there are some practical steps you can take.

  1. Be Loyal to You
    First, you need to be honest with yourself and take a hard look, seriously about your partner’s behavior. Try to see their behavior – of all kinds.
  2. Save the Journal
    Writing down
    your daily interactions with someone will allow you to go back and review what they said and did. Thus, you have a written record of the actual conduct that takes place. Because sometimes, our memory can play tricks on us, so it’s important to get it on paper.
  1. Seek Help
    Try to understand why you are allowing this behavior on your partner. Is there something in your past that makes you think you deserve this bad behavior? If you have the resources to do so, try seeking medical help to find out why you allow this to happen in your life.
  2. Find Out If You Are In Danger
    Most people experience mood swings from time to time, but once this has become commonplace in your relationship, you need to protect yourself and your children (if you have one).
  3. Take the Initiative
    Try to get your partner to seek help if he or she is saying bad things about you emotionally. And if they say no, then it might be best to end the relationship if the relationship doesn’t work out.

No one deserves to be emotionally abused. It’s a scary, cruel way to deceive someone. So if you find yourself in a tense situation and you sense anger building inside you, it may help to let go of resentment.

Save yourself and your happiness, because that’s the only thing that matters most.



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