While perfectionism is often viewed as the belief in perfection or a perfectionism, the flaw in human behavior can be seen in other subtle ways:
You only have to check something once
To postpone the thought that it is not the right time to start something
Being the first person to see the mistake all the time
It actually shows more than we can imagine and can be a blessing or a curse.
“Perfectionism is more than just a feeling of accomplishment; it is an image of an inward person who is overwhelmed with anxiety. ”- Thomas S. Greenspon
This is according to Thomas S. Greenspon, a psychologist and author of a recent paper on “the solution to perfectionism,” published in Psychology in the Schools
In other words, perfection is born of the insecurities, anxieties, and doubts that have a simple desire to do things right.
Psychology Behind Perfectionism
Why are some people so perfect? There are a number of reasons why this personality trait is stronger in some than in others and is less than a certain mental concept.
While some people take or leave mistakes as a lesson, perfectionists see them as their own mistakes. They beat themselves mentally and feel that sense of failure – the same fear of failure caused by perfection.
Another source of perfectionism is self-respect. Most people want perfection because they are concerned about what other people will think of them – that they will be judged badly if something goes wrong.
The experience of childhood can also allow perfectionism to change in your personality, especially if you have learned from a parent or guardian that you will never be able to enjoy it if you are not perfect. This extends to your way of thinking in all work and relationships into adulthood.
Also, restricted rules during your school years can teach you at an early age that following rules is important and will hurt you if you break them in any way or not.
How Perfection Distributes Privately
Many people are comforted by being expectant of mistakes but it is a common myth that perfection creates perfection.
Another downside is the amount of time you spend on making something seem complete and actually causing you to be less productive.
Spending more time on something can be tricky – we think we are improving something but that time is not quality time and can hinder your performance.
For example, suppose you were working on an important project for your department that had 15% of the company’s sales and it took you 4 months to complete it. While one co-worker completed another project per month accounted for only 7% of the company’s total sales. Although it is not frustrating to sell a lot, a colleague had time to complete other projects that brought in 21% sales.
This is an example of the idea that failing quickly is better than slowing down. If you fail quickly, you learn a lot in the short term that prepares you for future success quickly and this is what preventing perfection can prevent you.
How to Change Your Mind
If you feel that your perfection is holding you back, it may be time to change your habits and way of thinking. There are several strategies you can use to change your sense of perfection and improve your success in life.
- Leave the Mindset “All or Nothing”
Common sense when it comes to perfection is that you want to do something right or not. But the problem with this is denying the importance of the process.
Gaining greatness comes from the experience and understanding gained from this process, allowing you the opportunity to tune in and apply this for future success. This inadvertently diminishes the chance of a complete failure even though imperfect humans may struggle to resist it.
- Keep in mind 80/20 and 70% rule
Sometimes it is easy to ignore the essence of something when it comes to perfection but as long as the essence appears within anything you do, it does not require 100% perfection. Only 70% really need it to be good and good repairs can be done after that. In this way you see the end result clearly helps to identify potential problems.
The 80/20 rule is good to remember – only 20% of your efforts can reach 80% of the results. More than that will not make a big difference and will give you an easy way to sort things out over time.
- Ask Eagerly for a Positive Answer
The answer is a nightmare for all who want perfection and while getting the right and wrong answers is the best thing, this is a perfectionist that I can fight against and just knowing the mistakes and the wrongs. Therefore, asking for feedback regularly can help to counteract this and get the mind used to balance ideas.
- Sort “What You Need” from “Good to Haves”
Many ideas can be good unless you want perfection of yourself. Priority is important here but a person who wants to be perfect may find it difficult to leave the ideas they think should be included. However, this damages the quality of your work or project and may cause you to fall behind or add additional pressure to you.
Before you start any project, make sure you create a list of things you should ‘have’ and ‘good to have’. Make ‘the must-have’ a priority and include only the ‘good you have’ if time allows.
- Celebrate A Little Victory Every Day
The perfectionist mindset tends to rely on evil so writing down 3 daily successes can help turn this mindset into something good. Anything small from “I woke up before my alarm today” to “I met a new and interesting person” can make the mind think positive things and distract from the negative.
One study suggests that all of this is due to certain chemicals that interact with our reward system in the brain that allows us to experience a sense of accomplishment. This feeling motivates us to repeat the process in order to achieve it. Thinking of the good in everyday life, no matter how small, can literally train your brain to be optimistic.
- Set Realistic Goals
Setting unreachable goals for yourself is a straightforward aspect of perfectionism, and it can lead to feelings of inadequacy.
It says you are an actor who intends to be a Hollywood star within a year, or you want to have a book published successfully in the next six months before you write a name – while this is possible, you will definitely be disappointed.
Having goals is a good thing but raising too high can create feelings of diminishment and scarcity. So cultivate a desire for self-improvement in every way, but not to the point of making you feel inferior.
You can’t always turn off someone who wants to be perfect for you (that’s perfection) but you can be a ‘healthy complement’. You can do this by keeping in mind the larger picture.
Whenever you start digging something or details of your project, ask yourself how it will affect the end result. If it only contributes about 2%, you will need to let it go. This is an example of the cost of opportunities where there is a potential loss of alternatives or alternatives due to a focus on one concept.
Going back before you go inside can save you a lot of time and free you to focus on a better result.
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