8 attractive things for women (unrelated to appearance)


I have been helping men improve their love lives for years now. Perhaps I have read many articles on what women find attractive in men. I’ve even written a few of them. The funny thing is, I rarely find articles about what men find attractive in a woman. Is the modern dating game so restrictive that it is enough for a woman to just ‘appear’, or do we men stumble over the sight of a beautiful head of hair and a well-groomed body?

I can’t deny the fact that this is true for most men out there, but is there anything else needed to really attract a man who might be impressed by just ‘good looks’?

Now, I can’t talk about all the people here, but here are eight things, myself, that I find incredibly attractive to a woman.

  1. Kindness
    This may sound small, but true kindness is rare these days. You really get good people from those who have some kind of value in them, but how many people do you meet every day who can go and talk to one stranger crying on the train? I just don’t want to be nice to anyone, to my friends, and to my family. I want someone who can brighten my day by enlightening the lives of everyone they meet.

You have the power to brighten up someone’s day by just smiling at them. It is worth using it often, and to make it more attractive to men. A study conducted at the University of British Columbia shows that men are attracted to women who smile. A natural smile conveys messages such as hope and stability, which are desirable qualities for a partner.

  1. Good placement and humor
    “It’s not about loving yourself, taking care of yourself, and putting your happiness first.”

One of the most important things in any relationship, romantic or otherwise, is the ability to have a good time and a good laugh. Caring for your emotional and spiritual cleanness should be a priority. Only then can you take a healthy, easy life, and with the right amount of humor. While I never catch anything remarkable on the humorous level that, Ellen Degeneres, I love a woman who can live life every day at a time, take a joke, break up a few of her own.

  1. Enthusiasm
    This may sound like a long question to others, but I am a person who needs constant encouragement to be happy. To me, there is no feeling in this fascinating world like being inspired by a woman who is passionate about her career in life.

You can be a world-class pianist or you can be a doctor, the moment I see your eyes light up as you talk about what you want to achieve in life, I guarantee you I will fall hard and fast. You can’t get bored with each other, because there is always a topic to talk about with a girl who likes something.

  1. Getting along with my friends
    A friend once told me an old Chinese saying that a man who has a wife who gets along with friends will have a long and happy life. Yes, I feel that my friend might be lying that there is a real saying; however, I have to say that it is really nice to be with a woman who can get along with your friends and just be ‘one of the boys’ when she wants to.
  2. Self-confidence
    “There is nothing better than a confident woman who does not pretend to be someone she is not.”

I don’t know about you, but I love being among the people who are happy to be them. You see, not only women respond strongly to a confident partner, I like to have a woman who is independent and what she believes in; as long as it is not an opinion against my sports team or favorite band. Ha! I’m kidding. I will never date a girl who doesn’t like the Iron Maiden.

  1. Comfort with her sex
    There is a lot to be said about what is fun and, especially, what makes a woman so energetic. For me, what matters is not what a girl wears under the sheets or wherever she is, the fact that she is comfortable with her sexuality and knows her sexual powers. Romance is more fun with a woman who knows what she is worth and is not ashamed of it.

Your gender is a big part of your personality. As soon as you accept this side, you become a better and more attractive partner.

  1. Decision making
    “A girl has to be two things: who and what she wants.”

One of my biggest pets is people who don’t know what they want and can’t take responsibility for their decisions. At the end of the day, I’m determined to fight a few arguments where we should have dinner or any movie we should watch, as long as I know I have someone strong enough to make a decision.

  1. He has his own sense of style
    Here’s the thing: we men are the most visible creatures. It’s just the way we are organized by nature. Something I absolutely love about a woman is the unique sense of style. I admit that I often draw on the understanding of certain beliefs – the bohemian Goth with a fair share of body ink (in case you wonder). I fall in love whenever I see a woman with a style sense that I don’t see on every street corner.



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