For many years in my life, I fell into the trap of thinking that if I looked outside, my purpose would come to me. It all started during my junior year of college, when I saw most of my peers preparing to negotiate with consulting firms hoping to get a summer job, which would be turned into a full-time job before the big year.
I thought consultation was also a good way based on its popularity on campus, in addition to how its consulting firms marketed themselves, “Consultation is like continuing your qualifications for free arts. You will find a wide range of experience in all fields and you will gain in-depth knowledge of each of your projects. “
At the beginning of my senior year, I got a full allowance as a consultant and I was over a month old! As the first generation, a college freshman from a foreign family, I would make more money than my parents and reach the top. However, it did not take long for my happiness to end when I received my assignment. After a year and a half, I quit my job and, within short time, took a week off to work in Italy for a few months.
I was expecting a lot on my Sabbath – I strongly believed that working abroad, being surrounded by different people and living in a new place would lead me, one day, to wake up and magically know my purpose. Spoiler Warning: Never! Although, I would say, the experience helped me to see what I like, what I do not like and that my problems / questions will follow me, wherever I go, even if I am in the middle of the world.
“Life is not made to be intolerable because of circumstances, but is made only by a lack of purpose and purpose.” – Viktor Frankl
Through this experience, I have learned that revealing our purpose is about turning inward – planning on our inner direction, something that is always available to us, if we are able to calm our minds and listen. I also realized that our purpose involves far more than just our actions. Living our purpose means living purposefully – engaging in meaningful and rewarding pursuits, both internally and externally. When we are able to contribute to those around us in ways that sound real to us, then we can feel a deep sense of satisfaction and satisfaction that is hard to find elsewhere.
When you have time to reach that quiet space within you, I invite you to consider the following questions to determine your purpose:
- WHO do you love?
When you praise people, it is usually because they combine certain qualities. Any qualities you see in people you love are qualities that already exist within you. Maybe they just need attention and care to feel that you are incorporating those same qualities into your daily life.
- WHAT do you enjoy?
Go do things that make you feel good! (Even if it does not seem to produce “product.”) As we allow our minds to relax and feel happier, new ways of thinking are available to us. Example: I like to get out of nature. One day, I went alone for an hour + and traveled for hours on the trail without listening to podcasts / music, which didn’t seem very “productive”. However, it was during this time of travel that all these ideas for my business came up.
- Where are you?
We are the product of our places. When I was in a small town in India, it was very easy for me to relax and take every minute as it came because the people around me had the same lifestyle. However, if you ask me to combine this way of being in New York City, I will have a very difficult time because New Yorkers are always on the move. So, what is the question – are you surrounded by people who support your dreams and aspirations? You would be in a good position to express yourself deeply and have a great dream.
- WHEN was his greatest joy, and when did he experience it?
The first question will help you to see the values that were respected when you were most excited and the second question will help you to see the values that were broken when you were most angry. Both of these questions will inform you of the values you love in your heart and once you know those values, you can use them as a guiding light whenever you make a decision.
“Work without purpose is a waste of time for your life.” – Tony Robbins
- WHY do you do the things you do?
Be honest with yourself. Example: Why did I choose to attend the consultation? I went into the consultation because I thought it was the “right” way because:
many of my peers did that
I was confident that the consultation would give me the “breadth and depth” of the experience
I felt like I needed to earn some money
However, if I had been more honest with myself, I would have realized that what I care about more than qualifying, having a variety of experiences and making good money were helping people. Eventually I came to the realization so while I was looking for another job, the big question was, “What job opportunities will allow me to help people?”
“The answers you want are within you.” May you give them time and space.
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