Identifying Your Feelings is the key to great happiness


In the weeks and months following the September 11 terrorist attacks, millions of Americans have reduced their air travel home. As domestic flights slowed, traffic increased as research found that people preferred to drive longer distances than to fly. In addition to 9/11, there have been 331 people killed in a plane crash in the U.S. since the 1751 crash events. Happily, there were 42,000 driving-related deaths that year. The death toll from air travel and road travel remains unchanged in the years to come.

Statistics show that by 9/11, Americans were more willing to risk the death of a long-distance car driver than to take the risk of flying less, possibly because of the perception of the dangers involved in terrorist threats. We can believe that the terrorist attacks on September 11 are likely to result in a second death as people make the wrong decisions to avoid dangerous situations. What has been made clear, any major threat to public safety affects our emotions and the decisions we make.


Our Emotional Responses
Our emotional responses are to the way we respond to the world around us. We should smile at children because it is our evolutionary advantage to give babies a good feeling. We have to react by fighting or responding with a plane under visible danger because suicide is part of our DNA. What we don’t always think about are the thousands of small responses we face every day. The waiter at the restaurant is polite, so we respond kindly.

The car next to us cuts us off from traffic jams, so we abuse them. While many emotional expressions are found all over the world, social media can determine how we react when we encounter strong emotions. In Japan, for example, people tend to hide their fears or frustrations when someone in authority is present. On the other hand, in western cultures like the United States, people are more likely to express their negative feelings in front of themselves and others.


We can acquire strong emotions, ignore them, take control of them, and use them to make the world a better place. Climate change, domestic violence, and human trafficking are all examples of this in today’s world. Even the most egregious protests against racism are. The negative reaction we may hear about these problems can be put to good use by donating our time, helping others, or educating ourselves and those around us to know more.

“When you work with people, remember that you are not dealing with intelligent creatures, but emotional beings.” – Dale Carnegie

Emotion is our human way of putting a sound stamp on our experience. They are a key driver in our behavior and shape our responses to what is around us. Emotions enable us to make decisions, take action, communicate and communicate with others, and build good friendships and relationships. Our feelings are temporary or long-lasting. Understanding the emotional well-being of others informs us of how we can conform to our moral standards.


In our daily lives, we are often told not to ‘worry too much’. When women express emotions, some see them as showing “excessive”, or “excessive”. On the other hand, when men show too many emotions, or any kind of emotion- Some may see it as “weak”.

Emotions and decision making
Many of the decisions we make in our lives are almost instantaneous and are based on emotion. We do not always have all the facts and may always be in a hurry or in the best interests of the people. One moment we get a hot head and explode with mental confidence; next we are partially paralyzed. Antonio Damasio’s research has been instrumental in helping people understand how emotions affect our behavior in particular, how we make decisions.

One of Damasio’s studies looked at those who suffered from cerebral palsy. In addition to finding that such people are unable to feel emotions, he also pointed out that they cannot make decisions. Patients were able to describe the action they should have taken, but they were not able to stay in the decision, even as simple as what they would eat. Emotions enable us to weigh options and achieve what we believe is the best outcome for us. They are an integral part of our decision-making process.


When we make decisions, we look for ways to satisfy a basic human need: happiness. That is why many of our choices are ignorant attempts to avoid guilt, fear and negative emotions, while trying to increase our positive emotions at the same time.

The strong influence our emotions have on our thinking process means that our decisions can be flawed. And because we value our time, decisions are often quicker and more automatic, where we can feel in a certain way for as long as possible. Then we do not always see the full impact of the emotional turmoil on our decisions.

“Human behavior comes from three main sources: Desire, emotions and knowledge.” – Plato

3 ways to identify and help our feelings
Our emotions are there for a reason. They serve as a navigational aid to help us navigate and to navigate rough and rough seas. Taking the time to understand our feelings and emotions not only protects us from unexpected demise but also helps us to develop a happy and healthy life.


Take time to engage with people. Read the feelings on their faces and show them that you are listening and paying attention. Visual feedback and facial expressions often work best where your mirror mirrors work and help you get more involved.
Talk to others about your feelings. Learn to articulate your thoughts and feelings and feel that your default answer is correct. Suppose you could find a source of emotional support. If so, you will be better able to check the emotional level of the conversation and minimize any disagreements about your actions.

Slow down. Think about and examine what is happening around you. Our decision-making ability can make mistakes in judgment and are easily influenced. By using sound reasoning, you will be able to judge situations with greater effectiveness.
By exercising to help your feelings consistently, the growth that comes with it will set you up for success. Whether personal or professional, caring for your feelings and knowing how to deal with your feelings will create a sense of purpose.




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