“I will lose my job. My son yells all the time, and I can’t work like this. ”Many of my discussions start with statements like these these days from parents working at home because of the epidemic. It is not easy to choose between making a living and giving love. But that is a decision that almost every parent is forced to make every day and at all times in this epidemic.
But do we need to be selective? Not really. We can have both. The key is to strike a balance. Here are some tips to balance work and parenting while working from home.
- Understand anger
A tantrum is a hidden need to seek. Your child needs to feel connected to you because it makes them feel safe. This need to connect does not always exist when you start working from home. Because doing the work, you close your emotional brain and start using your thinking mind.
When the emotional brain is shut down, your child feels disconnected and insecure. This will make your child misbehave or get angry over something you want. If you take a closer look at anger, you will find that it is not about the ‘thing’ your child wants at all. Because it won’t go away when you give ‘something.’
The sound of ‘I want’ is your child’s way of asking you to pay attention and focus on it. It is difficult for our children to see us physically and emotionally. That is why they are trying to arouse our emotions. It doesn’t matter if they eventually find out about it or not.
They embrace any feeling because it opens up your closed emotional brain and rejuvenates your connection with them. The solution is to convey to your child that you are connected even if it seems that you are not connected.
Here are a few tips to prevent breakouts during meetings:
Before the meeting, tell the other person that you are working with the child. Set reasonable expectations so that you don’t feel embarrassed when your child interrupts.
Connect before disconnecting. Before you start a day’s work – spend quality time with your child – talk, laugh, make eye contact, hug and kiss. Do the same a few minutes before your meeting.
Start your child with something you do and tell him or her when you will return to join him or her.
During the meeting, keep an eye on your child from time to time and smile.
Do not always look at your phone when you are not working. Connect with eyes, hugs, and kisses.
“You will never have time for anything. If you want time you have to reach it. ”- Charles Buxton
The key to success as a parent while working at home – all working communication. Clear communication with your child, the organization you work for, and your spouse can make homework more comfortable.
Here are a few tips for effective communication:
Contact your team and explain your need for a flexible plan and a slightly more relaxed environment for your child. If you draw your share of the workload, your team is unlikely to object.
Plan your schedule with your spouse so that each of you will feel comfortable with the task at hand.
Explain to your child what you are doing at work. Explain how important your work is and what its impact is. Remember, your child wants you to succeed. Your teenager wants you to do something that she can be proud of. Once they know that you are doing something good, they will encourage and help you.
Share your daily challenges with your child. Think of solutions. For example, say – “You know Mamma builds cars, don’t you? So tomorrow I have an important meeting at 4 PM about how to make wheels that will allow cars to move faster. Now that is the time when I usually give you milk. What can we do to attend meetings? Can you help me? Let’s make a plan. ”
Plan your work day
Unlike the office, where the environment is almost always ready for focused work, the home environment is constantly changing and changing. If you want to get your job done on time, you have to make these changes.
What is the best way to do work while at home?
Look at the work you need to do in a day. In the list, you will find a job that requires a lot of focus and your undivided attention, and another job that you can do even with minimal distractions. Try and plan activities that require deep concentration early in the morning or at night when your child may be asleep.
Schedule a day to take a 5-10 minute break every hour. Write your plan and mark the red breaks. Share this with your child.
Then create a plan for your child. Sync your breaks.
Plan something fun for each break. Arrange to look outside on the balcony for 10 minutes on the first break. Arrange to feed the birds in the kitchen window for five minutes on the second break. Arrange to keep the washing machine dry for 15 minutes on the third break. Plan to lie on the ground for five minutes at four o’clock. And so on.
Work with a specific schedule and table and chair. Do not work all the time from everywhere.
“Never start a day until it ends on paper.” – Jim Rohn
Knowing what to expect and having something to look forward to is the secret of a calm and happy child. Start and end each day with thanks. Remind yourself that many people would offer anything to get a job with a healthy child. Plan and prioritize and overcome the epidemic.
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