Why Your Self-Confidence Need to Match Your Strength


Even if you show amazing results in your work or in other areas of your life, others may not see you as competent if you do not have the confidence to support you. If you know your job well, overconfidence will ensure that others see your work in your area of ​​expertise. And research supports this.

In a study conducted in the early 1980’s, psychologists Barry Schlenker and Mark Leary asked for 48 actual experimental studies to measure the ability (among other things) of 60 fictional people who could be part of a tennis tournament or a final class test. Experimental studies have found both speculative speculations about how they will perform (from the poorest to the best) and the consequences of how they do it.

It turns out that the experiments tested the ability of “people” who predicted that they would do better than people who were “more humble in their expectations – no matter how well the fictional people ended up playing in the tournament or the test. Even when fictional people predicted that they would do well and were shown not to do so, test subjects rated them as more capable than other thinkers who predicted they would do worse.

“Confidence. If you have one, you can make anything look good. ”- Diane Von Furstenberg


Recent research from 2017 repeated previous findings found similar results, showing that a healthy dose of confidence can help people see your potential.

One possible explanation for why people may see you as more competent when expressing confidence is bias in self-confidence, whereas people simply believe a person with high self-esteem because they think a confident person should know what we’re talking about (even if they don’t).

You obviously want to avoid giving false impressions when you don’t really know what you’re doing. Being confident, but actually lacking the skills and experience to support you is a dangerous combination. The following tips are not to cultivate the idea of ​​“fake until you do it”. These tips will help you pass on the right amount of confidence in your skills and experience so that others can access your existing strengths.

  1. Find the answer
    Find someone you trust who can give you a clear answer about how you interact with others. (Maybe a trusted colleague or an acquaintance who is not so close to you that they will refrain from their criticism). Ask them to give you both positive feedback and suggestions on how you can improve your self-confidence. For example, you may rub the back of your neck as you explain something, which may cast doubt on you. Having someone point this out to you to stop doing this will be helpful.
  2. Memorize some key details
    The best way to transfer a skill is to be competent in something. Make sure you know as much as you can about the subject or the job you want to appear competent in. Another way to make sure you know not only is your topic, but also to speak confidently so to remember some of the definitions you have to give often or answer questions you hear often (type of FAQ list in your mind).

Memorizing some of the boilerplate answers to some basic questions that you can almost answer without thinking will help you lose confidence because your answers will not be filled with “ums” and “uhs” as you search for words. It’s like having a script in your mind that you can call us as soon as you are asked by the FAQ about your expertise.

  1. Try talking about body language
    There has been a lot of research on so-called “standing strength” and other body language that can help you convey confidence. Whether it is true or not is a matter for discussion, but there are some basics you can rely on, such as good posture, keeping your hands in front of you, keeping your hand movements small and keeping them in the public eye.

If you are absolutely sure of what you are saying, say it in a tone of voice rather than letting your voice rise at the end, which will make it seem like a question. Make an effort with your body language and tone of voice and see what works best for you.

“If you’re confident, you can do anything.” – Sloane Stevens

  1. Use your success
    A retired professor of counseling at St. They can be as big or small as you like. When your boss or coworker asks you what’s new, you’ll have a better answer instead of going back to “nothing” or “not much” as we often do when people ask us what’s new or what’s going on. Having an answer that is ready to highlight success will give you more confidence.

In summary, the most important aspect of skills transfer is that you actually have a skill in your field of expertise and you should not try to “trick it until you do it.” If you have complete confidence in your skills and experience, but others still have trouble seeing you as competent, try these four tips to help you build more confidence, which will make people see you as competent instead.




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