Pulling yourself together after a failed project, job, or experience of any kind can seem daunting. It can force you to stay in bed all day looking at the Office for 200 hours. But a big day as that sounds like, is not the best way to deal with failure. It is naive to believe that you will pass through life without making mistakes. Failure does not define a person; it is the way they deal with that failure and get themselves out of the mud that truly reflects human character.
Before you can prepare to move on and learn from your mistakes, you need to have a clear understanding of what is behind the mistakes. An important part of this process is checking your self-esteem at the door, and you thoroughly analyze the situation from an outside perspective. Be honest with yourself and don’t leave room for excuses.
Have you tried as hard as you can? Have you used all the resources you have? Can you confidently tell yourself that the results show how you work? These are the questions to focus on. If you can not understand the flaws in your work, you will never be able to improve your flow.
“It is impossible to live without failure, unless you live so cautiously that you would not survive at all, when you would have failed by yourself.” – J.K. It’s rowing
Pass by with a little help from your friends
Apart from popular belief (or personal information), friends not only make fun of your bad decisions. Friends can give you that perfect mix of free jokes and real-world advice. Most importantly, they will tell you what you need to hear rather than what you want to hear.
I know a lot of people who like to try to deal with problems on their own. For some this may work, but it has never been a bad idea to get outside opinions from people you trust. Or while driving, rely on those mirrors to explore areas where you cannot see. Let your friends be your mirrors that explore the blind areas of your desires. The perfect filter for your coffee.
Just like you did a million times; your friends will be more than happy to help you when you find yourself trapped in a dirty place. Your friends will help you… if you let them.
Receive a Positive Response
Hearing harsh criticism of your work can be discouraging, even frustrating. But what good is a web site if it simply “blends in” with everything else out there? Going back to failure is not just about making friends happy, it’s about taking responsibility and owning why it failed in the first place.
Even if your project has not failed, you should always be open to constructive criticism. You should always strive to improve yourself, and sometimes that means rolling your fingers. It’s not easy and it takes a bit of mental practice but trust me friend, you deserve that in the end.
Do not be afraid to ask honest questions. It is very easy to get our heads wrapped around the human effort we often look at using rose-colored glasses. People will be willing to help you, but you should be willing to help.
Keep pulling the ball
What happens when you throw basketball? Well it comes back. But every time it jumps, it gets lower and lower until it lands on the ground. But if you keep hitting the ball, it will keep coming back. Hell, depending on how hard you beat us, can go very high.
My point is that you need to keep driving. You have to keep hitting that ball to keep it coming back, because if you don’t do it it will just dry up, and you sit there doing nothing. Even if you don’t know how to solve a failed task, keep going! Exercise yourself, clean your house, and plan your work. Do something, anything that will produce in any way. The worst thing that can happen to you is to lose your willpower.
Keep the gears twisting and keep pumping those juices into your noggin. Do you remember the movie with the fish? “Just keep swimming, just keep swimming,” he said.
“If we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to do well.” – Eloise Ristad
Failure… Yes, it will happen
I know all the inspiring speakers and their mother has said this before, but you will not be afraid to fail. Heated but with merit. If you ask me, failure doesn’t mean you’ve failed (stay with me for just a moment), It means you’ve been brave enough to try something new and get over it.
Failure is unfortunately part of the process. It’s the way you get into things better. Want to know what the real failure is? You are so scared that you refuse to leave your comfort zone. You need to accept that this is going to happen, not just once. Persist in your mind and keep cutting until you get results.
Do you think Tony Hawk came out of the womb doing kickflips and pop shuvits? Of course not. But after being defeated by big knees and joint joints, he became an expert. I will leave you with a measure that really speaks to me: “The king has failed more often than the one who is trained for the job.” Persevere, work hard, and have confidence.
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