Loneliness and self-care have become an asset. Markets try to sell us face-packs that can reverse the scars on our skin and mental imbalances. The “silent shelter” that they call ridiculous for their life-changing testimony motivates us to believe that this is what we need in order to live a better life. There is a special tea to drink during your “my time” This expensive salt will help you get a life-changing bath.
I used to wonder if being alone and taking care of myself was just a capitalist fashion that had no value to me. Sounds like only the false and spiritual scholars. I hated wasting my time alone and considered it a waste of my time. The real truth was that self-examination was terrifying. Spending time alone with my thoughts sent shivers down my spine. I threw a lot of stones so that they would not run out of company.
But everything had to change when I moved to college and started living with my big family. They had forced search operations that did not allow them to come home before dinner. And my classes were not compromised – I was able to manage to get good grades by going only twice a week. This has forced me to spend my days alone in an apartment with two quiet rooms.
This time, there was no escape from my thoughts. You can only watch so much TV to turn off the sound of your brain, you know? But within a few months, my loneliness turned to solitude. It was not easy. I used to be lonely. I had to always make peace with myself, deal with the beast of my self-expression, and acquire a forced self-awareness that can only be brought about by myself.
Now, I keep my time alone with great energy. It is not discussed and is necessary to keep my mind clean. And no wonder I’m happier than before. The company is still going strong, but I have the courage (and desire) to close my door.
“If you feel” tired “, if you feel exhausted and tired, it is better, for everyone, to withdraw and regain it.” – Dalai Lama
It’s not just that being alone helps you develop focus, productivity, and self-awareness. I believe it is a powerful act of self-care. Finding time alone and promoting the technology devices we have among us is a challenge. Not only are they out of the comfort zone, they are often inaccessible. How easy is it to keep on sending messages, watching, sending e-mails when you are alone rather than just doing nothing at all? I get it. I’ve been – it’s hard to prioritize “my time” when there’s so much on your plate.
Here are 3 ways you can create time alone – even if you have a jam-packed calendar:
- Stop Weekend
I set aside every day to turn off my phone, laptop, and mind. But I know it is impossible some days. Life can be stressful. Work gets more, or my family needs attention. How to get out to make time on the weekends to cut back. It may be just one day, but that day cannot be negotiated. It is much easier to find time once a week to cut short than to find time every day. It’s time to dump her and move on. No notifications, no work, or distractions. You can do whatever you like at this time – wander around the block, nap, write, paint, etc. You create a space of peace where you can feel it.
- Wake Up Frame
Waking up in the morning is the gold of doing things. Instead of getting up early in the morning when there is a major presentation at work, get up early. Just half an hour alone every morning can do wonders. You can go back to bed later to record this time, but I recommend it early in the morning rather than going to bed at night. Do not check your phone, laptop, or email at this time. Completely remove the plug. If some solution to the persistent problem comes to you at this hour, I am not surprised. Solitude works wonders for all kinds of internal and external dragons.
“If you find or find something nutritious in your soul and that brings happiness, take care of yourself enough to make room for it in your life.” – Jean Shinoda Bolen
- Arrange One-Time Packets
If none of the above applies, mark some time on your calendar. Schedule it without guilt or shame for not doing something other than “productive.” This time is one of the best use of your time. Trust me.
I keep a plan to go to the park alone after lunch every day. It’s only 20 minutes, but my brain feels brand new after coming back. And you don’t have to go anywhere to record this time-to-work, just ask everyone not to disturb you unless it’s an emergency. There will be no 99% of days.
If you have a surprisingly busy day, book your lunch time. Do not use it to check emails, post, or deepen networks on LinkedIn. Use it with you. Eat alone without phones or screens.
At the end of the day, you’ll be glad you made time for yourself. Negotiating an absurd job of spending time alone is an exchange that not only works for you – your relationship thrives, your career improves, and you become your best version. So, do it, have the courage to close the door.
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