Look for What You Have
Most of us do not have everything we need, and that is a good thing. While the hedonic printing press is “chasing after the wind” that is frustrating, as King Solomon put it, life is a journey. It is actually preferable that we never “come” until we die, because death is the end of space and the final end of life. Until then, we keep reading, moving forward, and enjoying ourselves as much as possible.
That brings us to a different, and even better, question.
Do you want all you have?
Not only can this be answered with a simple “yes”, but it completely changes the view that the first question implants in the reader’s brain. When you ask a person if he or she has everything he or she wants, ask him or her to look for and focus on the imperfect areas of his or her life. It’s like asking a person what happened to his thighs. Before you asked that question, they weren’t thinking about their thighs. They had no problem with their thighs. But now they are scrutinizing their thighs and are convinced that they will find something they do not like! As they say, let the pumpkins be pumpkins.
When you ask a person if he wants everything he has, you give him the opportunity to express satisfaction, the kind of satisfaction that is impossible to gain in the long run. Life gets better when you start asking yourself this question.
There are hundreds of millions of cats in the world. I have two of them. My two skins (send an email to Merriam-Webster; this will be a voice on Saturday) bring me great joy, conflict and laughter every day. I wonder if I should have more or fewer cats, or if my two cats are the most beautiful in the world, but why? They are awesome and I love them.
Our problem is not that we do not understand these concepts, our problem is that we use them inconsistently. We may be satisfied with our cats, but not be satisfied with our activities. We may be satisfied with our work, but not be satisfied with our love life. What can we do about that?
Zoom in to see new angles
If you are not satisfied with the area of your life, take any steps you can take to improve it. That’s right. But you may be on a hedonic treadmill and need to look at it again.
Dissatisfied customers do not need to fill out a comment card, they just need a hard look at the good stuff. This will be my food motto and it will end. However, it applies to the individual level.
Let’s start with your life. You’re not happy [with the complaints coming here]. We have a long list of bad things now, but as a good photographer, we will use new angles and a zoom lens to see differently.
To bring your status closer and reverse the state of the world, you can experience some hidden blessings that your brain has spent as normal.
For example, according to the World Health Organization, 1 in 3 people does not have access to safe drinking water. Many people died of it. Every minute, the newborn baby dies.
Trust me, I am the last person to throw a wet towel on people. And there is very little to say, but it is true. Most people want what you have. I’m not trying to hurt you, I’m telling you that you’re very lucky if you have clean water, among other things. Let it be known. I have always had clean and safe water, and I admit that I take it easy from time to time.
No matter what you are, there are good things you can do. Forget the hedonic treadmill, you can want what you have now. It doesn’t stop you from getting the extra things you want, it just lets you enjoy what you already have.
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