What Has Been the Greatest Change Ever? Three Pillars of Self-Love

  1. Gratitude
    Every day, write down five things you are grateful for, and think about why you feel grateful for these aspects of your life.

They can be small, very large, boring, fun, stay strong or change constantly. Follow your feelings and stages in life. But whatever it is, always take the time to find gratitude in your daily life.

Examples can range from having a good weather, getting up and relaxing, thinking about your support system, thanking yourself for working hard.

Try to connect your gratitude to your values. What are you most proud of? What forces you to get out of bed every morning and move on? Be specific with your thank you list as often as you can.

Second, feel free to share the gratitude of others. While it is important to focus on appreciating your skills and commitment, it is also important to show appreciation for your support system.

Write a letter of appreciation to someone in your life once a week. People around you have a huge impact on your self-esteem – and telling them that will only help to strengthen your relationship with them, and with yourself.

  1. Assurance and good communication
    “The words we speak become the house we live in.”

Think about that. If you live in a world of negligence, deception, humiliation, judgment and criticism, how safe are you in the world? Is it safe? Are you happy?

Almost impossible.

Be careful how you speak to yourself. Show love and gratitude by choosing kind and encouraging words. Be on your back – especially when it comes to standing up to your inner critic.

In fact, if you have a vocal critic, make sure you put it out by name. This creates a rift between you and your bad voice, which can help you to realize that you are not bound by them indefinitely. You can produce words that are kind, reassuring, or accustomed to your one-on-one criticism.

To get into this habit, make it a practice to say at least 1 to 3 guarantees a day. They can be as simple as “I deserve it,” or they can be described as “I don’t wait for others to give me permission to do what I want.”

Ideally, these guarantees will set the tone for your entire day, and the more you repeat them, the more confident you will be. In the midst of a constant source of hope from you, and an underestimation of your inner critic, you will be on your way to creating a safe place for yourself to prosper.

  1. Self-care
    Self-care can be defined as any act that feeds you. Some self-care activities can also give you energy, while others can be for relaxation purposes. Usually, it is used for rest, reset or display. Self-care will look different for everyone. But the most important thing to do is to love yourself, you must show yourself to love yourself every day through the ministry.

Self-care can be divided into three distinct categories: mind, body and soul. On this amazing day of self-care, you will mark something under all three categories. On the most difficult days, you can just tick one.

Here are some examples of self-care under each category:

Mind: writing, learning to have fun, watching a relaxing show, joking, drawing, building, knitting.
Exercise: exercise, having a spa day, a doctor’s visit, a salon visit, stretching, bathing, doing a skin care procedure, a face mask.
Soul: prayer, meditation, contact with a loved one, participation in a social event, reading a self-help book or a spiritually inclined book.
Remember: Everyone will have different personal care items to talk to. For example, under the “body,” some may choose to exercise more than a manicure – and that doesn’t mean that their self-care is better or worse than anyone else’s! As long as you practice self-care that fills your cup, you do it right.

If you have trouble staying consistent or coming up with ideas for self-care, consider investing in a self-care calendar or with a self-care bingo to help with planning. Both can bring out the guesswork in your planned activities and help you stay in line with your progress.

I hope these tips help you to avoid healthy and happy relationships with you. Your stability, security, and sense of humor will greatly enhance your self-sacrificing spirit.





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