When we think of a happy life, it may be tempting to think seriously, to look at big events such as birthdays, weddings or the birth of a child, but the fact is that such days come only once, perhaps a week or two each year. Instead, our churches, our months and our lives are made up of ordinary days, distributed on working days and weekends most of us. As a result, building blocks for a happy life look normal.
At this point, enough research has been done that we can produce less of the ingredients for a happy life. At a basic level, we need communication, a sense of meaning and strong support for a healthy body – or, relationships, projects, and sleep, diet and exercise. The good news is that unlike wild weddings or high-quality baby showers we see on social media, these ingredients are available to most people.
While it is common to say that if we want to have a happy life, we have to work on creating happy days, other common beliefs can get in the way. First, and most deceptive, is the mindset of “everyone who works on the weekend”. With respect to the entire Loverboy group, this is a bad philosophy of life. Hard work, playing a tough strategy that has made us happy over the weekend or only during the holidays there are bad numbers behind it. After all, in a 52-week year, only 104 days are weekends; that leaves many days of the year sent to grief. In addition to life, that’s a bad measure.
The second, related belief in our path is that happiness should be recorded. While there is some kind of truth in this, as in the case of taking a rich art class, it is also possible that episodes of pre-existing times can be transformed from the supernatural or even sucking the soul into happiness.
For example, in a recent episode of her pre-breakfast podcast, time management expert Laura Vanderkam talks about lunchtime adjustments. After all, as he says, in a year, five hours a week add 260 hours, the equivalent of more than 30 working hours of eight hours. That is a very short time to invest in building relationships with colleagues, exercising, reading novels or even writing a novel. Any of these activities are likely to promote a fuller sense of purpose and happiness than the normal task of compiling a sandwich while checking email in an informal way.
This general principle can be applied to many of our daily activities. For example, people are often made to feel uncomfortable walking in and out of the office, an event that takes place ten times a week. With forethought, this time can be restored. Get on the train or bus on your way? Maybe you can set up an annual study project. Drive a car? What about committing to learning a new skill by listening to podcasts on the topic? Go? What about a phone call from a family member or friend who lives far away?
The same principle can be applied to household chores. What about creating a family tradition that the laundry involves singing music together? Probably every Friday a new recipe night, during each season that involves mastering a new national food.
There is something else that can be said about donating a new time intentionally to a project to create greater happiness. Sunday nights can usually take the same quality of dinner and television before bed, and Sunday night is even more frightening. In fact, in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology articles, researchers found a complete sense of well-being among their subjects on weekends. Deciding to take a class, build a monthly book club or join a recreational sports league will not stress the schedules of many people, and meaningful social or learning commitments can create a bright midweek or turn Sunday evening into a favorite time of the week.
Making better decisions about how we spend our days that make up the bulk of our adult lives is a way to regain independence, which is also a practice that reduces happiness. Given the choice between dark days and days that increase our sense of self-worth and total happiness, who would not choose the latter?
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