Happiness Is Mindset
“The only capital of T True is that you get to decide how you will try to see it.” —David Foster Wallace
While I was in my ninth round of depression, one vision, heard three ways, led me to create this “deceptive” argument — that we can choose happiness — and it brought me back to my natural state of daily happiness.
The first time was a focused meditation led by thoughtful researcher Jon Kabat Zinn. The same thing happened,
“Imagine you are sitting on a riverbank. Occasionally you will be dragged into a creek and off. All right. Just pull yourself out of the stream (of thinking) and sit back on the shore, listening to the commotion and the explosion. ”
The idea that my thoughts were not true was a change. I didn’t need to let my unhappiness take over.
Weeks later, a lesson came to light when I received a random comment about a lost chat thread now on Reddit:
“Think of your thoughts as the weather; as if they were passing through the clouds. The weather has no meaning: sometimes you get storm clouds and sometimes the sky clears. “
It broke another link in the corner of the depression concept that I don’t use.
The third line of stairs that helped me to climb the ladder was much simpler, another quote from a forgotten origin:
“You don’t need excuses to be happy.”
Happiness does not require an outward event, an achievement, a win, a beating, a struggle, or some other reason.
You can choose to be happy now – in this moment – for no reason other than the most complicated way of life we know, you live in the happiest time in history, you are surrounded by a volcanic hydrogen ball at 67,000 mph, you are sitting on a rock and mud.
Related: The Key to Happiness: Choosing to Quit Your Current Attitude
How to Remember
“Happiness is not a state you can attain, but a way to go.” —Margaret Lee Runbeck
I hope the picture makes you feel good, but I can see that in the end someone will say, “Yes, but what about paying bills?”
It is difficult to remember this joy when you face the pressures of everyday life. David Foster Wallace took up this challenge in the first in-depth talk, entitled “These Are Water” (take 20 minutes to read this if you have never been happier). In short,
“There are these two young fish swimming and they happen to meet an old fish swimming in another way, pointing at them with their heads and saying,‘ Morning, boys. What is water like? ’And two young fish swim a little, and finally one of them looks the other way and says‘ What the hell is water? ’”
People easily forget what’s in front of our eyes, all around: that we are swimming in cosmic reality, the source of all happiness — Life, the Universe and everything. We just need to pay attention.
It is a simple but difficult task. Still, there are habits that help us to remember. Here are two powerful favorites.
“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life changed.” —Willie Nelson
Fear, anger, anxiety, frustration and sadness cannot remain with gratitude. Your assignment, then, is to spend the rest of your day with gratitude.
This needs to be heard, not taught. You can set yourself up for gratitude in the following ways:
Meditation: Sit down, breathe, and take a picture of what you are grateful for in your life, even if it is a time of peace. Lay your hands on your heart; it helps.
Journaling: Make a list of all the things that are going well in your life, all the aspirations and past experiences (challenges included) that make this person who you are.
Smile: Change your mental and emotional state by changing your physiology. If you smile, you will feel grateful for what you have.
Live naturally: The natural world is just amazing. Look at the sky, the trees, the wildlife, and be thankful for this bed that is the bed of all life known on Earth.
“The opposite of playing doesn’t work. Depression. ”—Jane McGonigal
When I look at my friends’ Labradoodle gently arguing with their one-year-old child, the child’s laughter underscores a fact I often forget: Playing equals life.
Parrots love toys, and elephants snuggle in the water. Our kids are also playing, and, if you have young kids you probably wish they could get off the Nintendo switch and clean their rooms. After that we grow and trade that game that has no purpose in livelihood and other bad habits. Not surprisingly, most youths are skeptical of their senior management.
Play teaches important environmental skills, such as community mobilization and traffic control, but when it comes to throwing an ax we know more than just great fun.
We play because it sounds fun, and this is true at any time. If you don’t believe me, just look at Grandpa, a WWII veteran, who plays the look with his little princess.
Jane McGonigal leads the way with a lot of adult play. For him, its significance is so important that his purpose in life is to see the Nobel Peace Prize in the hands of a playmaker. His game, SuperBetter, has helped millions overcome depression, anxiety, and chronic pain. That’s the power of play.
How do we bring more into our lives?
Make exercise fun too: Avoid the treadmill. Get out of Stirmirmaster. Moving your body should be fun. If not, try this: Go outside, find a friend or a team, try a sport or war game – just change it until it sounds like we are playing.
Buy toys: Find a frisbee with a friend, buy a set of Lego, fly a drone. A nice motorcycle works, too.
PLAY more games: Join a chess or trivia club, visit a board game cafe, download your favorite childhood computer games.
Make It All A Game: The best line from the movie Elf? “Everything is a toy when you play with it.” Boom, your morning walk has become a medieval gauntlet. Making your monthly savings is a race against the timer and your past good, with a prize in the end.
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